It’s
Time For Change In The Psychic Medium Industry—A Request For
Your Assistance
by Bob Olson (founder of
OfSpirit.com Magazine, BestPsychicMediums.com &
BestPsychicDirectory.com)
I recently got a call from a
highly influential man who presented me with an exciting
opportunity. I was immediately enthusiastic because he and I
instantly connected, meaning that I felt we were aligned in both
purpose and principles.
He sent me a proposal in the
mail that outlined the project and all the people involved, all
of whom have impressive resumes. As I read the proposal, the
whole venture seemed like a once in a lifetime opportunity; that
is, until I read that one of the people with whom I’d be
working side-by-side—which meant that our reputations would be
publicly intermingled—was associated with a psychic hotline.
This caused me to take pause.
I called the man who sent me
the proposal and learned that the person associated with the
psychic hotline had already signed a contract to be part of the
project. Although my involvement promised many potential
benefits, there was no way to work around the issue of my
reputation being mixed with this other person’s. Therefore, I
regrettably had no choice but to bow out of this otherwise
amazing opportunity.
Before this experience, I
had given the psychic hotline industry little consideration.
I’m referring to those psychic telephone services where you
call a 1-800 or 1-900 number to get a psychic or psychic medium reading while
getting charged by the minute via your credit card or telephone
bill. To me, these services were never to be taken seriously;
they should be used for entertainment purposes only, like the
neon-sign psychics on the side of the road. But as I perused the
various psychic hotlines on the Internet after missing out on
this promising business venture because of them, I became
gravely concerned by what I saw.
I quickly understood why so
many people are skeptical and suspicious of psychics and psychic
mediums—including myself before I began investigating psychics
and psychic mediums in 1999. What was most obvious was that the psychics
and psychic mediums whom I write about on my websites have very little
in common with the psychics and psychic mediums doing business on these
psychic hotlines. Yet
it occurred to me that it’s likely that few people are aware
of the differences. So I’d like to point them out right now.
There are two very different
and distinct categories of psychics and psychic mediums in our world.
Let’s just call them the Purposeful Category and the
Entertainment Category. My investigations into this field have
led me to support and write about the Purposeful Category in
order to educate the public about their differences from the
Entertainment Category. Here is how I would describe each one in
a nutshell:
The
Purposeful Category of Psychics & Psychic Mediums
In the Purposeful Category,
there are the legitimately gifted psychics and psychic mediums who use
their real first and last names, present themselves with a real
photograph of themselves, charge by the session so that you know
ahead of time how long the reading will last and how much it
will cost, and genuinely want to use their gifted abilities to
help people in a purposeful way.
The psychics (who read
energy) in this Purposeful Category present themselves
professionally, do not ask leading questions, do not want you to
become dependent upon their guidance or advice, and offer their
readings to help you confirm what your own intuition is already
telling you—thereby teaching you to trust your own inner
guidance so that you don’t need to keep returning for more
readings.
The psychic mediums (who communicate
with spirits) in this Purposeful Category present themselves
professionally, do not ask leading questions, do not want you to
become dependent upon them for numerous readings, and primarily
provide as much evidence as possible to help you overcome your
skepticism about spirit communication and the afterlife and know
(through this evidence) that your deceased loved ones are truly
communicating through this psychic medium in order to convey
messages to you.
The
Entertainment Category of Psychics & Psychic Mediums
In the Entertainment
Category, there are the psychics and psychic mediums who basically
present themselves anonymously (fake names or first names only),
often show no photo of themselves, offer readings filled with
vague generalities, ask you a lot of leading questions, provide
little or no evidence of spirit communication, have a financial
incentive to keep the reading going (by charging by the minute),
and are likely to encourage you to return for several readings
per year.
While I have pointed out the
psychic hotlines in my introduction to this writing, I want to
point out that this Entertainment Category of psychics and
psychic mediums is by no means limited to those associated with these
hotlines. There are also many psychics and psychic mediums who work on
their own with no association to the hotlines. Nonetheless, they
too tend to mimic the standards and ways of doing business (even
how they present themselves with anonymity) as the psychics and
psychic mediums doing business via the psychic hotlines. You’ll know
‘em when you see ‘em, even when you visit their websites.
Below is a list of what I
consider the lower standards and outlandish business practices
of the “Entertainment Category” of psychics and mediums,
which, in my opinion, lower the image and reputation of the
psychics and psychic mediums in the “Purposeful Category.”
Unfortunately, these lower
standards and outlandish business practices are not limited to
the Entertainment Category. I’ll be the first to admit that
too many psychics and psychic mediums within the Purposeful Category
also falter in some of the areas I describe below. I suspect
that this field as a whole has been getting away with these
inadequate standards and practices for so long that even some of
the most gifted and professional psychics and psychic mediums have
somehow failed to recognize the absurdity in it. It’s also
likely that they never gave it much thought and are simply doing
business like so many other psychics and psychic mediums have been doing
business for years. This is just another reason why I’m
writing this piece and encouraging you, the public consumer, to
force a change by no longer being tolerant of such preposterous
ways of doing business.
Bob
Olson’s “Top 5 Areas That Need Change In The Psychic &
Medium Field”
Here is my list of the
common business practices in the psychic and psychic medium field that
need change:
1)
Phony Names or First
Names Only: Many of the psychics, psychic mediums, tarot
readers, numerologists and astrologers doing business via the
psychic hotlines and elsewhere present themselves with
anonymity. The worst cases actually use a fake name. However,
these aren’t fake names like the witness protection program
gives you; these are blatantly false names (usually single
words) that no one would ever mistaken as a real name—often
recognized as names of gemstones and crystals or words generally
found in nature or the solar system, for example.
Obviously I’m not saying
that people don’t have first names that were inspired from
gemstones, crystals, nature or the solar system. Many people
most certainly do. My friends’ daughter’s name is Daisy.
Nevertheless, for years I have required many psychics to send me
their driver’s license to verify their real name in order to
be approved for my directory (BestPsychicDirectory.com), and only one person’s driver’s
license actually matched the peculiar name she submitted because
she legally had her name changed through the court system.
My key point here is not
that these names are fake so much as these fake names have no
last names. Unless we’re talking about Cher, Pink or Prince,
most people are virtually anonymous without using a last name.
And since anonymity washes down accountability, this is why
I’m against it in the psychic and psychic medium industry. We need
more accountability, and phony names only detract from it.
Fake names aren’t the only
problem. Equally as ridiculous are the first-name-only psychics
and psychic mediums on these hotlines that are usually followed by a
number. Let me emphasize that they have no last names, which,
once again, is precisely my issue with it. For example, one
might find a Stephan43276, Evi010065 or Blaine234353. Can we
find Evi010065 (or even just Evi) in the phone book? How about
on a census? Is this the name she used when registering to vote?
The fact is that I don’t know how many of these first names
are even real. Yes, maybe these really are their first names,
but what accountability is there in using only your first name?
Just try locating some information about me in a Google search
by searching for “Bob.” That’s my point.
With the exception of the
film and music industries, what other industry tolerates this
business practice? Who wants to do business with a business
owner who blatantly uses a fake name or first name only? Would
you trust giving your credit card number to a therapist named
Milkyway with no last name? Would you feel comfortable taking
health advice from a nutritional consultant named Sue45536? Most
people I’ve asked say “No way.” Yet, sadly, thousands of
people on a daily basis trust the advice, guidance and messages
with anonymously named psychics and psychic mediums on the psychic
hotlines and elsewhere.
2)
Phony Photographs:
This one is minor in comparison to the other 4 items on this
list, but it’s important enough to mention. I’m a stickler
when it comes to putting a photograph on your website. If I go
to a website, I want to see the face of the person with whom
I’m considering doing business. But what’s worse than having
no photo at all is when someone puts up an alternate photograph
where his or her headshot should be. The psychic hotline
websites (as well as countless psychic medium and divination reader
websites) are riddled with photos of tarot decks, rainbows and
crystal balls instead a photo of the person offering us a
reading.
Since the psychic hotlines
only do business over the Internet and telephone, having an
alternate photograph is the equivalent of my chiropractor or
massage therapist wearing a Halloween mask while doing business
with me. Again, I ask, in what other businesses are such silly
practices considered acceptable?
I’ve had psychics and
psychic mediums tell me
that they want to remain anonymous because they don’t want
people in their community to know what they do. My response to
them is to suggest that if they are ashamed of their occupation
to the level where they actually feel the need to hide their
identity from everyone online, then they’re probably in the
wrong occupation.
The psychics and psychic mediums who
are doing the most valuable work, who gain the deepest sense of
purpose from their gift, and who are most likely to make an
impact on the world with their calling, are not those who are so
ashamed of what they do that they feel the necessity to remain
anonymous. In fact, those who do try to hide their identities in
this manner are negatively affecting those who are proud of what
they do because anonymity raises suspicion within a field that
is already plagued by skepticism. My advice to psychics and
psychic mediums: Learn to be proud of your God-given ability to help
people or do something else that actually makes you proud.
3)
Pay By The Minute With
No Time Limitation: I guess the psychic hotlines feel
that if people are naïve enough to do business with someone who
only has a first name and no photograph then they are also
likely to hand over their credit card info for a reading that
charges a) by the minute AND b) with no time limit.
What do these customers do
if the psychic or psychic medium reading goes on for two hours? Three hours? More? If
you’ve ever had a reading with a psychic or psychic medium, you know
how fast time passes. It’s hard to keep track of time or worry
about money when someone’s spouting off details about your
life, messages from your deceased loved ones, or predictions
about your future.
It’s not like these
pay-by-the-minute readings are cheap, either. Many psychics and
psychic mediums on
these hotlines get $2.99 to $5.99 per minute. That’s $179.40
per hour and $359.40 per hour, respectively. And I repeat—with
no time limit! Do you think these psychics and psychic mediums have an incentive to
keep the reading going as long as possible? Considering that
their hotline companies are taking a hefty percentage of their
fee (as much as 20 to 60 percent), there’s no doubt that the
temptation is built into the pay-by-the-minute structure.
What other businesses charge
by the minute with no estimate as to how long the service will
take? Most practitioners in the Mind, Body & Spirit field
charge by the hour, and sessions are usually set at 30 minutes,
60 minutes or 90 minutes. Visit any naturopath, acupuncturist or
hypnotic regressionist and you’ll know what you’re getting
and how much you’ll be paying before you begin. Even my auto
mechanic calls me with a price before he makes a repair. This
pay-by-the-minute practice does nothing but raise suspicion and
concern, and it’s unacceptable in my opinion. Why any
legitimate and reputable psychic or psychic medium would want to
adopt a business practice that "adds" suspicion to the
psychic medium field is unfathomable to me.
With this said, not every
hotline is guilty of all 5 items on this list. I give credit to
the few psychic hotlines that offer a choice of “pay by the
minute” or “pay a set price for a set amount of time.” But
they still offer the pay-by-the-minute option, and this is where
I take issue. There are too many nice folks out there who go
with the pay-by-the-minute option thinking that they’ll
actually save money because they can stop the reading whenever
they want. That’s true in theory but less than likely when
taking into account that a) it’s difficult to keep track of
time during a reading, b) readings are engaging and therefore
entice one to want to keep listening, and c) unscrupulous
psychics and psychic mediums will be skilled at keeping callers on the line
(considering the possibility that there might be some
unscrupulous psychics or psychic mediums out there).
4)
Testimonials Without
Full Names: Here is a practice that runs rampant
throughout the entire Mind, Body & Spirit field, and it’s
regrettably accepted all too often when it comes to psychics and
psychic mediums. Imagine this…you go to a practitioner’s website and
click on their Testimonials page. Oh, look at all the
testimonials listed. How wonderful. But wait! The testimonials
don’t have full names; instead they claim to be written by
Sally J or B. Hollis. Worse, many list only initials. How is
anyone supposed to put value or credence on a testimonial from
J.K. of Massachusetts? I personally don’t know, but this
anonymous testimonial practice is more common than you might
expect.
Many psychics and psychic mediums
(and other Mind, Body & Spirit practitioners) will tell you
that they use partial names or initials in order to protect the
privacy of their clients. My response? Did you ever ask your
clients if they mind using their full names? When I have asked
this question, the answer is most commonly “No, I wasn’t
comfortable asking.”
Ironically, a lot of clients
are happy to give a testimonial with their full name attached.
How do I know? I have an entire directory of psychics and
psychic mediums that allows the public to write reviews, but I require
reviewers to include both their first and last names. Does this
stop everyone from writing reviews? No way. There are well over
a thousand reviews on BestPsychicDirectory.com, all of which
have the reviewer’s first and last names published online.
My point? If psychics and
psychic mediums (or any Mind, Body & Spirit practitioners) simply
ask their clients for permission to print their full name, they
could publish testimonials using each client’s first and last
names, thereby giving every testimonial accountability,
credibility and value. Will every testimonial writer be willing
to use their full name? Most likely not. But without this simple
practice of using full names, practitioners might as well write
the testimonials themselves. And who knows? Maybe some do.
You would never see this
practice being accepted in the mainstream marketplace. Consumers
wouldn't put up with it. The truth is that most
mainstream businesses like hair salons, car dealers and carpet
cleaners that post testimonials on their websites commonly even link the testimonial writer’s name to that person’s
website, giving the testimonial even greater credibility because
we can actually contact the person who wrote it. Again, it comes
down to accountability, which is the whole point of testimonials
in the first place.
I’m not even asking
for the level of commitment that links testimonials to their
writers' websites. Let’s just get full names first.
Then, perhaps in the future, we can insist on some way to
contact each testimonial writer. I understand the need to take
baby steps. So let’s just do away with the "initials only" or
"first names with a last initial" for now and write the full name.
Otherwise, why bother with testimonials at all?
5)
Phony Costumes:
While this is not as prevalent as it once was, there are still
many psychics and divination readers (readers of tarot cards,
crystals, tea leaves and crystal balls) who dress themselves
like Gypsies, despite the fact that they have no ancestral roots
or connection with the Roma/Romani people. This might include
silk dresses and multi-layered skirts in vibrant colors,
solid-colored square bandannas on the head (known as diklos),
large and dangling jewelry, and pieces of velvet or leather
clothing worn as accents. In my view, such costume wearing is
misleading, the equivalent of someone who is not a doctor
wearing a white doctor’s smock to add credibility (however
false) in order to hand out medical advice.
When I was a private
investigator, I didn’t testify in court or interview a witness
dressed like Sherlock Holmes. Nor did I drive around in a red
Ferrari like Magnum P.I., although that might have been fun had
I been able to afford one. Once our business attire moves from
being a uniform to serving no other purpose than to act as a
costume, professionals begin to lose credibility. I once knew a
salesman who knew nothing about auto mechanics, but wore an auto
mechanic’s uniform to sell auto repair discount booklets
door-to-door. In truth, he was misleading the public that he was
a mechanic in order to make a sale.
In a nutshell, Gypsy
costumes—or costumes of any sort—detract from a psychic’s
or psychic medium’s credibility and image rather than uplift it.
Unless they are dressing in this manner because of their
heritage or family tradition, it reeks of deception. I’m
all for dressing in line with the customs of a learned practice,
such as is common in the martial arts, but unless a non-Gypsy
psychic has apprenticed to learn the rituals, traditions and
ways of the Gypsy or Roma/Romanian people—and they haven’t
merely learned how to give tarot readings—it seems out of
integrity to present themselves as such simply in attempt to
enhance their image or credibility.
Conclusion
The time has come that we
hold the psychic and psychic medium industry accountable and cease tolerating unfathomable
practices that we would never accept in any other business
industry. Imagine consulting a lawyer online who offered his
first name only, presented himself with no more than a
photograph of the scales of justice, and asked for your credit
card in order to charge you by the minute with no agreed upon
time limitation. Most people would never be so naïve as to
consult with such a lawyer. Yet numerous online psychics and
psychic mediums who
follow these shoddy practices—many charging more than some
lawyers—are giving readings to thousands of willing clients
daily.
Although I know psychics and
psychic mediums will read this (and will hopefully be inspired by it), I
am not writing this piece for their eyes, as I will address them
more directly in other venues. Instead, I am writing to you,
someone who might purchase readings from psychics and psychic mediums,
because it is you who holds the power to change this industry
even more than the psychics and psychic mediums themselves.
If we, the public, begin
making responsible choices by not accepting the business
practices outlined above, the psychic and psychic medium industry will
have to change. This means that we must stop purchasing readings
from the category of psychics and psychic mediums who commonly violate
the 5 items listed above, which by basic economic principles
alone will precipitate this necessary transformation. Most
importantly, any legitimately gifted psychic or psychic medium who is
serious about their work will follow these public demands for
more professional business practices; and this, in turn, will
change the face of an industry that, in its best light, truly
and effectively helps people in times of adversity, confusion
and grief.
Bob
Olson is a former private investigator
and skeptic who began using his investigation skills to research
psychics, psychic mediums and the afterlife in 1999. This research led
him to establish OfSpirit.com
Magazine (2000), BestPsychicMediums.com
(2001) and BestPsychicDirectory.com
(2007), three of the most trusted and influential sources for
understanding and locating trustworthy psychics and psychic mediums.
Today
Bob Olson has tested hundreds of psychics and mediums around the
world and has become a leading authority on the subject with TV,
movie and documentary producers, journalists, book publishers,
event promoters, as well as law enforcement agencies and private
investigators. Bob’s achievements in psychic and medium
investigation and testing has further allowed him to evaluate
and isolate the key components that set apart the best psychic
medium readings from the mediocre—leading him to create his
famous (although secret) 15-point test.
Bob
has documented his findings in a multitude of articles. He has
authored the Forewords for three books: The Complete Idiot's
Guide To Communicating With Spirits, Consult Your Inner
Psychic and The Complete Idiot's Guide To Divining The
Future. Bob has also been quoted as an expert in How To
Get A Good Reading By A Psychic Medium and Empowering
Your Life With Angels. He is also the author of Win The
Battle and How To Beat Depression.