Experiencing
A Different Kind Of Mediumship
Learning The Purpose Behind My Spiritual Journey Into Mediumship
By Bob Olson
Three
days after my Easter experience
at the First Spiritualist Church of Quincy, Jackie called
me on the phone. I had given her my business card and suggested
she call me because Nancy had spoken so highly of her. I really
didn’t expect she would call, at least not this quickly, but I
was glad she did. The timing felt right to me.
Jackie
and I began chatting and I was instantly impressed with her
maturity. She was only twenty-nine years old, yet she had a
wisdom about her that most people twice her age don’t express.
I enjoyed how she spoke from a place of truth. If she didn’t
know something, she didn’t pretend like she did. Basically, my
conversation with Jackie was easy, like I was talking to someone
I had known and trusted for years.
I
learned that Jackie’s story was like most of the other mediums
I had interviewed. She had psychic and mediumship experiences
since she was a child, but she pushed the gift away. In her
early-to-mid-twenties, the experiences grew more intense and
less deniable. For Jackie, the voices and visions grew so
forceful she was beginning to wonder if she had a mental
illness.
That’s
when Nancy came into her life. Jackie saw Nancy give a
talk on psychic mediumship and it all came together. She related
to what Nancy was saying as if Nancy were talking about
Jackie’s own experiences. Jackie realized she might be a
medium. The very next day she enrolled in a workshop that Nancy
was giving. Over the following months and years, Jackie learned
to understand the gift she was given and how to use it.
When
I talk with a medium for the first time, I listen for certain
indicators that signify to me that they are genuine. After my
initial two-hour conversation with Jackie, I had no question
that this young lady’s gift was special. It was now apparent
to me why she had been so highly recommended by Nancy. I
immediately felt compelled to share her with the world on
OfSpirit.com, but I knew I needed to experience a reading with
her before I could write an article with integrity and
credibility. So I set up a reading with her for the following
day.
One
of the questions that had been haunting me ever since I created
OfSpirit.com, and since I had fallen into this flood of new
experiences and connections with mediums, was why this was all happening to me. Although it may be
difficult for you to believe, I really wasn’t seeking these
experiences out—they came to me. In fact, these new
experiences flowed to me effortlessly.
I
never would have had a reading with Joe if not for my
father visiting his group session the night before I called. I
had called Joe intending that he write an article for
OfSpirit.com, but the Universe had bigger plans. I also never
would have met John but for needing an article on that
website. Instead, a friendship ensued. Nancy called me
because John suggested to her that she should. I still
don’t know why he suggested this to her; he just did. Then,
the Easter experience arose despite my plans with my mother and
sister that day. Again, it was Nancy who invited me,
not something I sought out. If Joe had not told me two days
prior about the medium who did spirit drawings (Rita),
I may never have given the Easter demonstration a second
thought. If my mother and sister had not fallen sick, I would
have spent the day with them instead of meeting Jackie,
Brenda and Rita. With unimaginable
synchronicity, all these events fell into place without any
effort on my part.
There
had been other strange coincidences, like the time a medium
accidentally called me on my office number. She thought she was
calling someone else, but mixed up the names and called me
instead. Or the time another medium, quite famous by the way,
accidentally emailed me a very personal note. This was one of
those notes that was definitely not meant for anyone’s eyes
other than the person intended; but it ended up in my email. I
let the person know of the mistake and that I would keep the
secret to myself.
Another
strange coincidence occurred when a writer (who has no
connection to mediums) asked me to help her with marketing ideas
for her new book. When she put me in touch with two of her
friends, a husband and wife team who were helping her with the
book’s promotion, I thought I was conversing with book
promoters. Coincidentally, they also happened to be the top two
researchers in the country (at a major university) studying
scientific evidence of mediumship and the afterlife.
Because
I was communicating with these people by email, I never
recognized their faces when I saw them interviewed on Dateline
and HBO specials regarding mediums. I should have recognized
their names, but I was oblivious because I wasn’t expecting to
know them. Eventually, after reading their names in a scientific
journal that published their findings, I finally put it all
together. I’m currently reading their new book, which offers
evidence for a link between science and spirituality. As of this
moment, my tie with these medium researchers has no apparent
significance. I suspect the connection will have more meaning in
the future, but I’ll just have to wait to see what transpires.
By
the time Jackie called me, I felt like I was being pushed on a
journey that was beyond my control. All these experiences were
beginning to add up in my mind as more than mere coincidence.
Sure, it wasn’t too far fetched that I would meet psychic
mediums as the editor of OfSpirit.com, but the magazine also
published articles on over sixty other subjects. We had hundreds
of articles about subjects like acupuncture, aromatherapy,
astrology, breathwork, chelation, chiropractic, coaching,
dowsing, energy healing, hypnosis, herbalism, labyrinths,
magnetics, massage, meditation, natural medicine, nutrition,
polarity, reiki, shamanism, shiatsu, yoga and zen, to name just
a few. Why was it that psychic mediums were such a dominant
theme in my life?
Jackie
told me she could put questions to her personal guides for
answers (she refers to her guides as “my people”), which is
a different kind of mediumship than I had ever experienced. So I
asked Jackie if she could ask “her people” where all this
medium stuff was taking me? “It is starting to take up a lot
of my time, and I find it hard to believe this is all about one
little book,” I told Jackie. She said she would meditate on
the question and let me know the answers she received from her
people when we talked the next day.
The
following day, I was exceptionally excited about getting a
reading from Jackie. Now that I had asked her the question that
was weighing on my mind, this had become more than just another
reading to experience a medium’s abilities. After some light
discussion, Jackie began to tell me what her people had told
her. Apparently, she had meditated on the question beforehand
and written everything down. As she read it back to me, it
became evident that her
people were present and helping her with the
interpretation of her notes as she spoke.
Jackie
began by saying almost the exact same words Rita had
told Melissa on Easter during a conversation between them. Rita
told Melissa that she picked up an energy from me that something
was about to explode like a volcano. She warned Melissa, “Hold
on to your hat. Bob is being led into something that is outside
his control. When it happens, the roof is going to fly off.”
Jackie
began, “There has been a shift taking place within you over
the last few years. It is one of the most important turning
points of your lifetime; yet it is still in the beginning
stages. It is like an earthquake opening the ground. This is an
awakening of your spiritual purpose. And you are in the morning
sun phase. You still have a lot ahead of you, and you will meet
many more people who will teach you what you need to know.”
Being
the impatient person that I am, I pushed Jackie for something
more concrete, less metaphors and more details. She reminded me
of Vicki the way she spoke with a poetic rhythm.
“You
are on a quest of personal discovery, but will share your
experiences with others. My people call you the ‘bringer of
the news,’ meaning you will teach others what you learn.
People’s lives will be touched by reading about the personal
relationships you will have with many people, many teachers, not
just mediums. This is just the beginning. There will be several
books, not just one, and all very successful. There will also be
increased speaking along the way. But you won’t be up to full
stride for two to five years. My people warn you to pace
yourself and your creative energies,” Jackie said.
Jackie
went on to explain that the main reason my books will become
popular is because I come from such a skeptical background.
“You understand where people are coming from in their
skepticism, and they can relate to you because of it,” she
said.
Jackie’s
people added that it is important that I am a man
writing about these subjects. Many men are more skeptical about
these matters than the average woman, and they often view women
as naïve believers. To open some men’s minds, they will need
to hear about these things from another man—especially one who
was once as cynical and skeptical as they are.
As
Jackie told me these things, I recalled that Vicki had predicted
these same occurrences a couple years prior. At that time, it
was just too hard for me to believe any of it. Vicki was the
only psychic medium I knew, and I still had years of research to
do. Finishing one book was hard enough to fathom, never mind
several books. But I have to give Vicki credit. After looking at
my notes from past readings with her, I realized she had given
me almost identical messages. However, at the time that Jackie
passed these messages along, it all seemed closer and more
realistic.
As
nice as it is to hear that the books you write will be
successful, there is always a certain amount of fear that seeps
in with such a message. For instance, Jackie said I would speak
all over the world, but I have no desire to travel all over the
world. That might have been fun in my twenties, but now that
I’m approaching forty, I don’t have the same energy and
enthusiasm for a rigorous travel schedule that I once had. I
like to stay home now. I like to take naps. I like the comfort
and complacency of a regular, quiet, routine. Consequently,
these messages from Jackie weren’t exactly thrilling news to
me. If that’s what it takes to spread my message, then I’ll
do it. But I can’t say it felt like news to celebrate when I
first heard it.
To
add to my fears, Jackie’s people gave me various warnings of
challenges I would face in the coming years related to my work.
“Gee, how nice. Icing on the cake,” I thought. But then they
gave me some skills to use in dealing with these challenges:
breathing exercises, physical exercise and a particular diet. In
the end, the messages from Jackie’s people were bittersweet: a
fulfilling yet challenging future; a successful but stressful
career; an adventurous yet tumultuous schedule. In the end, it
didn’t sound all that much better or worse than the roller
coaster ride I had been on in my first
thirty-eight years on this earth. The next thirty-eight sounded
like much of the same but with different experiences. I guess
that’s called life.
It
took an hour for Jackie to relay the messages her people had for
me. Then she told me that a spirit was coming through. He had
been with her the whole first hour, but was waiting patiently
for her to finish telling me what her people had conveyed to
her. In fact, that’s exactly what he made a point of telling
her, “I’ve been incredibly patient,” he said. I had a
pretty good idea that this was my father. I could always rely on
him to show up for me at a reading.
Jackie
said this man showed up during her meditation and showed her a
symbol—the no smoking sign with the red circle and line
through the cigarette. “He told me it has two meanings,”
Jackie said. My suspicions about the spirit’s identity were
confirmed; it was my father. He died of lung cancer due to
smoking. The two meanings to the symbol were: one, that he should
have quit smoking and recommends that everyone quit; and, two,
that he no longer smokes anymore now that he is in the spirit
world—a message that he has passed along to me through more
than one medium.
My
father’s message that he no longer smokes is partly humor and
partly serious. Even though he is in the spirit world and can
smoke freely without worrying about getting cancer (the humorous
part), he has quit the cigarettes because it was his failure to
quit smoking that took him from his family at the young age of
sixty-three (the serious part). My father likes to joke around a
lot, but he knows how to make a powerful point, too. He would be
perfect in one of those “don’t smoke” commercials; that
is, if he could do a commercial from the other side. If smokers
could feel the intensity of regret he now feels for not quitting
while here on earth, they would hang up the cigarettes
instantly.
Psychic
mediums have good days and bad days. Jackie was having a
stupendous day. She had connected with my father like a computer
connects to the Internet with a cable hookup. In contrast,
I’ve had some readings where spirits came through with a
telephone connection and an outdated modem. This day, Jackie
repeated things from my father that no medium had ever picked up
on.
Jackie
picked up that my father had “mood swings.” In fact, he had
bipolar disorder (manic-depression). She also knew about a
discussion Melissa and I had about how my father’s choices in
life defeated him. It was pretty creepy to learn that my father
was listening while Melissa and I talked about him. But the most
amazing message was when my father told me to warn Melissa of a
certain person she was befriending. He told me who the person
was and that he was very concerned that Melissa not let this
person get too close. His exact words were, “Tell Melissa to
watch out!”
I
had originally warned Melissa of this same person months prior,
but she didn’t listen. My intuition was telling me her
“friend” had less than true intentions. But Melissa is so
loving and trusting of people that she convinced me (to a point)
to give this person a break. So I eased off on my warnings to
her. That’s probably why my father felt the need to warn
Melissa himself.
Even
more unbelievable was what happened next. Jackie stopped talking
for a moment. I sensed something might be wrong by her silence.
“Jackie?”
I said, hoping everything was okay.
“Bob,
I’m looking out my window, and I can’t believe what I’m
seeing. At first I saw a beautiful hawk flying outside my
window. I was so pleased because I live in the city and you
never see a hawk in the city. But then I saw a crow start
attacking the hawk. It is so rare to see this in this area. Then
I realized this is no coincidence; it is a symbol. It’s a
symbol of what’s happening with your wife and this friend of
hers. The crow represents darkness, the person’s evil
intentions. The hawk represents light, your wife. Someone is
making an emphatic point here,” Jackie said.
Now
the messages had become frightening. But then my father changed
the subject and moved into a rather lengthy message that
conveyed his love for Melissa. He recalled that Melissa was
there when my mother, sister and I sat with him on his hospital
bed as he was dying. Twice in the reading he expressed his
closeness to her and wanted to thank her for the love she showed
all our family members. He said Melissa was the fourth member of
our family, his second daughter. I knew what he meant since
Melissa had known my father since she was twelve years
old—when we first started dating. Hence, she was more like a
daughter to my father than a daughter-in-law. My father confused
Jackie a little by calling Melissa his daughter, but she kept on
relaying the messages as she was given them. He told her that
Melissa was like an anchor for me, and kept me in balance. And
there were more messages that would have brought Melissa to
tears if she were listening.
Additionally,
Jackie gave me many of the same messages that other mediums had
conveyed from my father to me: that my father felt badly about
what his alcoholism did to our family; that my father had lower
back pain; that his brother was with him in the spirit world;
that his mother, Mary, was with him in spirit, too; that
Melissa’s grandmother, Katherine, was also there; that I hate
the snow even although I live in Maine; that my birthday is in
May; that Melissa’s birthday is in December; that my
father’s birthday is in July, that my father and I shared the
same name; and that Melissa and I recently moved residences.
Phew! All that information in about an hour, and one hundred
percent accurate.
It
is not unusual that a spirit will mentally show a medium a place
that they want to describe. I’m not sure why, but my father
often shows mediums our home. I think my father likes it. Plus,
Jackie relayed that my father helped Melissa and I find the
place. Jackie immediately told me that my father wanted to show
her my home, and she asked me permission to come inside. After
giving her permission, Jackie began to describe it.
“I
love this place, it is very peaceful,” she said. “When you
first came to this place, you got butterflies and knew you would
live there. [That was true. I had the strangest feeling of
knowing this was the place we had
to live. The place was a dump and needed a lot of work, but I
knew it was the one.] I don’t see you leaving this place, at
least not this neighborhood; it is important to you somehow.
Your home is nice and cozy, harmonious. I’m being drawn to a
window; I don’t know why. Does someone speak to a picture by a
window? [I didn’t answer, but there is a picture of my father
that I talk to on a windowsill.] Now your father is back to
being funny. He makes me laugh. [My father kept joking the whole
way through the reading. Sometimes he would become serious about
certain subjects, but would always return to being funny.] Do
you not like to cook? He’s joking with me, saying that you
could help more in the kitchen.”
These
were all pretty general comments that Jackie made about my home,
but I knew she was there in her mind. Aside from being correct
about her observations, I had a knowing
about Jackie’s gift. After you’ve had enough readings, read
enough documents, experienced enough medium demonstrations and
talked to enough mediums about their gift, you finally develop a
“radar” where you know without a doubt if a medium is
genuine or faking it. In Jackie’s case, her connection that
day with my father was so strong, she couldn’t have done much
better if my father were still living and talking to her on the
telephone. By the end of that reading, I was—once
again—blown away.
This
reading with Jackie was on a Thursday and I publish a new
magazine issue on OfSpirit.com every Friday. I normally piece
the magazine together all day Friday and upload it to the
Internet Friday night. I wanted to tell the world about Jackie immediately, but that meant I had to write the article
with only a couple hours left of my day. I would only have a few
minutes Friday morning to make some edits before adding it to
the magazine. So I wrote a quick article that didn’t really
amount to more than a long testimonial for her gift. The
resulting article was mediocre, at best; but the response she
received was much more than either of us expected. I can only
attribute this response to the fact that my enthusiasm hadn’t
had a moment to subside; I wrote the article almost immediately
after my reading with her. Enthusiasm is always contagious, and
I think you can feel my excitement when reading my words.
Here
is the article I wrote:
Having once been a
major skeptic when it came to psychics and mediums, I understand
why people are hesitant to call psychics for either guidance or
fun. I spent most of my life thinking every psychic and medium
in the world was a phony and a fraud. Two years ago I learned
differently. Now that I have been investigating and writing
about mediums for two years, I have discovered several
genuinely-gifted and legitimate psychic mediums right here in
New England.
I
would like to announce one particular psychic medium who is
among the cream-of-the-crop. Her name is Jackie, and
she’s a twenty-nine year old prodigy. Jackie is as good as
they get, although she’ll tell you she is always growing.
Unassuming, you know she is reading your life from a place of
love and non-judgment. The most obvious of her personality
traits are kindness, integrity, sincerity and honesty—just
what you'd want from a person offering such intimate insight
into your life.
Please
understand that I have been read by some of the best mediums in
the world. I have seen demonstrations from psychic mediums who
are internationally known and have had major television,
magazine and newspaper publicity. I promise you that none of
these celebrated mediums have anything over Jackie—her
gift stands among the best.
I
recently experienced one of Jackie's gifted readings.
She has a sweet unassuming manner that is confident, yet
unthreatening. What I enjoyed most about her personality was her
almost ego-less innocence. Perhaps that comes from her young
age. But don’t let her age fool you; hers is a blessed skill
that defies years of experience. Perhaps there are lifetimes of
experience instead. Her accuracy met a depth of detail and
insight that is far beyond what I expected from such a young
person. Jackie presented me with names, dates and
descriptions she could never have known; and she did it with
ease, as if she had been giving readings since the day she was
born. In the end, this young lady impressed me, and that's not
an easy task.
When
I was a skeptic, my main problem was that I didn’t know where
to find a legitimate psychic medium. I didn’t understand that
a medium actually communicates with your spirit-guides rather
than just reading your mind or reading your future. I never
realized that these practitioners can communicate with those who
have “crossed-over”—they actually have the amazing ability
to hear and see dead people. One purpose of my research into
mediums is to inform you (the public) where the truly gifted
mediums are so you won’t be taken advantage of by the less
than legitimate ones.
The
experience and benefits you can gain from a reading with a
gifted medium like Jackie are well worth the investment.
You’ll spend money at a restaurant, on shoes or a new dress.
Why not spend the same on a gift to yourself that could change
your life? Jackie can give readings by phone to people
anywhere in the world. Don’t procrastinate calling her for a
reading. Now that we at OfSpirit.com are telling the world about
Jackie, she is going to book up fast! Call soon to get an early
appointment.
Jackie
did book up fast. Like Joe before her, OfSpirit.com
changed the course of her business, and in this way, her life.
Her clientele grew, and she began doing readings for people all
over the world. This was never really my intention. I only
wanted to share these mediums with our online visitors because I
knew how many scam artists existed in the world. Rather than
expose the charlatans, I preferred to shine a spotlight on the
genuinely gifted mediums. I know when a psychic medium is
genuine, but I don’t always know the difference between a
medium who is having an off day and a phony. I don’t think
anyone does, but many reporters ignorantly try. Hence, the
reason so many truly gifted mediums are falsely accused of
pulling a scam.
Once
again, I was pleasantly surprised by
a medium just when I thought I had seen it all. Jackie gave me a
different kind of reading that opened my eyes to new
possibilities. Why is it that “her people” were able to give
me information that my own guides and family of spirits were
unable or unwilling to provide? This is just another question
that I don’t expect to have answered anytime soon. The answer
doesn’t matter. What matters is the lesson that, regardless of
how much we know, there are always new possibilities for which
we must keep an open mind. As if my experience with Jackie was
not enough to nail that lesson down, my experience in the next
chapter hammers yet another example of alternate methods for
spirit communication.
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BOB
OLSON is a former skeptic and private investigator who has
researched evidence of life after death for approximately five
years. He now shares the spiritual insights, extraordinary
experiences and gifted individuals he has met along his journey
in order to bring hope, comfort and peace to the grieving. Bob
is the author of Win The Battle, co-author of Understanding
Spirit, Understanding Yourself and editor of
GriefAndBelief.com,
OfSpirit.com
Magazine,
& BestPsychicMediums.com.