The
Purpose Of Psychic Medium Demonstrations
Mediums Stir Tears And Laughter While Contacting Spirit From
Stage
By Bob Olson
A demonstration of mediumship is an event where a psychic medium stands in front of a group of people,
usually on stage, to randomly perform short (three to ten
minute) readings for a few of the audience members. Psychic
medium
demonstrations are basically the same as radio shows where psychic mediums take callers, but this is a live event where people can
witness the spirit communication in person.
My
first experience with psychic medium demonstrations was actually on
television. I would watch James Van Praagh, George Anderson,
John Edward and Sylvia Browne do their thing on talk shows like Oprah,
The Howie Mandel Show,
Donny & Marie,
Larry King Live
and Montel, to
name just a few (some shows which have come and gone).
During
the show, the psychic medium would give mini-readings for studio
audience members that would last a few minutes long. They would
often tell an audience member things like: their deceased father
or grandmother was present; a quick description of what that
spirit looked like when living; perhaps what the deceased person
did for a job before he or she died; what the cause of death was
that took the person’s life (such as an accident or disease);
and maybe some sentimental messages like the person was greeted
by family members when he or she crossed-over, is happy now in
the spirit world, and is watching over that audience member from
the other side.
Unsurprisingly,
these talk-show demonstrations are often unconvincing. Between
the hosts who are trying to be funny and the so-called
“expert” skeptics whom the producers feel must be heard,
there’s a lot of pressure and chaos with which the psychic mediums
must deal. Add to this the limiting time constraints between
commercials and you have one of the worst conditions possible
for clear mediumship. It’s like when you were a kid and your
mother was standing behind you telling you to hurry up and
pee—not the most ideal circumstances for a satisfying
performance.
On
the other hand, there were occasional television demonstrations
that got me thinking in a more convincing manner. I’d ask
myself, “How did he know that the audience member lost her
daughter to suicide?” “It’s hard to believe he could have
guessed her husband’s name is Clarence,” I thought to
myself, “I would have guessed John or Bob or David before
saying Clarence.” “Of all the illnesses that exist, how did
she know his father died from colon cancer and not from lung
cancer or a heart attack?” These TV demonstrations didn’t
change my life, but they got me thinking about the
possibilities; and that was a major breakthrough for this
narrow-minded skeptic.
The
best television demonstrations I have ever seen were on John
Edward’s TV program, Crossing
Over With John Edward. Edward’s show is what most psychic medium
demonstration events are like, only Edward’s
demonstrations have television cameras and a crew. I’m pretty
sure that the producers for Edward’s show edit out most of the
weak readings and show more of his strong readings. That’s
what I would do if I were a producer. After all, television is
supposed to be entertaining. If you have two hours of
demonstration that you must edit down to a half-hour show, who
wouldn’t use the best readings? Anyone who would do otherwise
would be out of a job fairly quickly.
If
you ever get to watch John Edward, I highly recommend it. I know
psychic mediums who know John personally and swear by his legitimacy. I
also know from watching his show and comparing his technique to
the psychic mediums I have experienced personally that Edward is an
awesome psychic medium. In fact, he is extremely gifted and well
practiced in using his gift. He’s not necessarily any more
gifted than the psychic mediums I write about in this book, but at the
time I write this he is more famous.
If
you are wondering, I too have heard or read some of the garbage
accusations that John Edward is cheating. It’s simply a bunch
of crap. Don’t let the media feed you with paranoia. It’s
the oldest media trick in the book to increase audience ratings
and advertising profits; it’s called sensationalism.
Magazines, newspapers and television tabloids know that skeptics
love to think psychic mediums are big cheating scam artists. All they
have to do is suggest it and people will jump all over it.
I’m
the first person to encourage a healthy skepticism with psychics
and psychic mediums. Sadly, there are some fraudulent schemers
exploiting the fragile minds of the desperate and bereaved. But
TV news shows and magazines are not the authoritative source on
this subject. The public should be as wary of the media as they
are of the scam artists these reporters seek to expose. I
don’t believe it is worth taking down a few truly gifted psychic mediums for the sake of exposing the fakes. The media doesn’t
have the experience to know the difference.
Television
is a good way to be introduced to mediumship, but it will never
compare to the experience of attending a live demonstration.
There is something magical about anything that’s a live
performance. That is why we go to concerts with our favorite
musicians even though we have the same songs on CD at home. That
is also why we attend seminars, lectures and workshops when we
can learn all the same information in a book. Live events are
captivating, motivational, and instill a sense of enthusiasm and
excitement that are hard to capture through any other forum.
One
of the best live demonstrations of mediumship I have attended
was with two psychic mediums named John Holland and Gordon Smith
in
Boston, Massachusetts. It was a formal event sponsored by The
Ninth House in Arlington, Massachusetts, a holistic health and
education center. John is a Boston psychic medium who grew up in
Dorchester. Gordon came from his homeland in Scotland to
share the stage with John. Both psychic mediums are among the best in
the world, and they really know how to present mediumship in an
entertaining manner.
To
avoid confusion, I’m going to focus on John’s
performance that evening as an example of a convincing and
entertaining psychic medium demonstration. John began the event with a
short dialogue about his own personal story and an explanation
of how mediumship works.
Like
most psychics and psychic mediums, John knew he had unusual intuitive abilities even
as a child, but his gift was not encouraged by adults so he
pushed it away. About a decade ago, John had a car accident
while living in Los Angeles. He was banged up a bit in the
crash, but no serious injuries resulted. Soon after this
accident, John’s psychic medium abilities kicked up a notch—he
started to know intimate details about people’s lives whom he
had never met. Apparently, the gift he had stuffed away as a
child was now resurfacing. He can only speculate that the
accident may have had some effect on him to cause this shift in
his abilities.
John
was bartending at the time and began experimenting with his
newfound insight into other people’s lives. John would give
bar patrons messages as they sat at the bar. Some people loved
it and gave John extravagantly generous tips. Others feared his
inner knowing and complained to the establishment’s
management. Eventually, John’s boss told him he had to stop
freaking out the customers. In time, John left that job to study
mediumship and improve his gift through proper training.
As
John told his story at this live event, the crowd was locked on
his every word. In only five minutes, he already had guests
laughing hysterically one minute and welling up with tears the
next. The transition he made from his personal story to his
explanation of mediumship was subtle and unnoticed. “Energy
cannot die!” he began. Then he gave a compelling discourse
showing human essence as energy, not just flesh and bones.
John’s explanations were simple and brief, keeping the pace
fast and alive.
He
taught the audience what to expect and what to do if they were
chosen to be read. “If I say something that doesn’t make
sense, don’t make it fit,” he instructed. “I’m not using
a script up here,” he later added, “so this is a lesson in
trust for both me and you.” “Psychic medium communication,
especially during a demonstration, is all an experiment,” John
confessed. “Because I’m not using a script, we can never
know what to expect.” Audience members began to squirm in
their seats with the spooky thought that, tonight, the spirits
were in control.
John
later explained that many people have already had communication
from spirits. “The number one way spirits come through to
people is through dreams,” John said. Many audience members
nodded their heads as he said it. I could only guess that
they’ve had such dreams. “These dreams are unique because
they are the dreams you remember with extreme clarity,” John
explained. Again, a few heads were nodding in agreement.
John
finished his talk by informing the crowd of 150 people that the
most common message spirits want to convey is “I’m still
here!” “They want you to know that they continue to exist
and they are still with you,” said John. A few people pulled
out the tissues to catch the tears rolling down their cheeks.
Just then, the ringing of a cellular phone echoed through the
auditorium. “That reminds me,” John spoke with a smile,
“Please shut off any pagers or cellular phones.” The
phone’s ringing was instantly drowned out by the roar of
laughter and applause.
Typical
of most demonstrations of mediumship, John’s first reading was
his weakest. I don’t know if it’s the psychic medium who needs to
warm up, the spirits who need to get used to the psychic medium’s
energy, or the audience who needs to get used to the format
before they shed their initial fears. In any case, it is not
uncommon that the first reading of the night will be brief and
unconvincing. But then John followed with one of the best
readings I have ever witnessed at a demonstration. The audience
member he chose was sitting right behind me.
To
help you understand how psychic mediums choose between audience members,
they typically wait to see who comes through from the spirit
world. Now if there are 150 people in the audience and each
person could have several spirits who want to come through, you
can imagine the crowd of spirits competing for the psychic medium’s
attention. So while nobody really knows how the spirits decide
who is getting through, the psychic medium simply raises his energy to
link with spirit and connects with whoever is there. This spirit
might be the strongest communicator, the spirit who needs to get
through the most (based on knowledge of which we are not privy),
or possibly even random luck (although I believe more in fate
than luck).
Psychic
mediums are like a human telephone to the
spirit world. Unfortunately, they are a telephone without a
dial. A psychic medium can’t call any spirit you want to contact.
Essentially, the psychic medium picks up the line and whoever is on the
other side (pun intended) is the spirit who comes through.
John’s
second reading would have caused any nonbeliever to cancel their
subscription to Skeptic
Magazine. I knew it was going to be a good reading
because the woman was immediately emotional. Her voice cracked
with sentiment like she was about to start crying right from the
get-go. She was full of anticipation and open to anything John
was about to tell her—not fearful or sitting with her arms
crossed and her mind closed.
There
must be something to this, because anytime I have witnessed a
person being read who is bubbling over with emotion in this
manner, the reading is always clear, detailed and accurate. I
say this from “my” perspective, not the perspective of the
person being read. In other words, a skeptic could argue that
such an emotional audience member would naturally feel like they
got a good reading because their perceptions are clouded by
their high expectations and emotion. But as a third party
watching this take place—and as a person who has witnessed
many readings both weak and strong with people I personally know
(so I know if the psychic medium is accurate)—I’m distanced enough
from the reading in both emotion and expectation to remain
objective. So my conclusion is that there is a direct connection
to the openness and acceptance of the sitter (the person being
read) and the accuracy of the reading.
On
this particular evening, this woman was open and accepting, and
John’s reading was remarkably accurate. The woman’s husband,
whom she had lost only months prior, came through with detailed
and sentimental messages. We learned that they once had an Irish
Setter who was now with the husband in the spirit world. We
learned that the husband was a smoker, that they had one child
together, that he had big ears, that she had recently visited
the doctor, that she still kept his watch, that her grandmother
named Rose had a stroke, that she often felt the husband lay
down beside her in bed at night, and that they shared some of
their favorite memories at the beach.
My
listing these messages in one short paragraph goes a step beyond
not doing them justice; it actually deflates the sacredness of
the experience. To have been in that room sharing this woman’s
confirmation that her husband was there—validating that he
continues to be with her each and every day despite the physical
limitations—was a poignant and unforgettable event. Her tears,
enthusiasm and excitement for every message conveyed indicated
to everyone how well John was doing, and had tissues flying out
of pockets and pocketbooks. I think most audience members could
have gone home after this reading alone and felt satisfied that
they had witnessed something that would forever alter their
thoughts about spirit communication and the afterlife. But then
John slam-dunked another two incredible readings before it was
Gordon’s turn to wow the attendees with his mediumship
in a Scottish accent.
The
purpose of a public demonstration of mediumship is not to give
everyone in the audience a reading. That is what many attendees
hope for when attending a psychic medium demonstration, but this is not
a forum for private readings. The purpose of a public
demonstration is to open people’s minds to the
possibilities—the possibility that an afterlife exists and
spirit communication is achievable.
Personally,
I believe that psychic medium demonstrations are a stepping-stone toward
the private reading, sort of like a sample that allows you to
see if you want to make the full investment in the real thing.
If you are skeptical, demonstrations allow you to witness other
people being read. You might even get a short reading yourself.
With any luck, the demonstration will provide you with the
evidence required to think to yourself, “This might actually
be legitimate. I think I’ll give a personal one-hour reading a
try.”
Demonstrations
can also help people overcome their fear of spirit
communication. By watching other people receive messages from
the other side, fearful audience members may recognize that
their fears are based on a lack of knowledge—fear of the
unknown. Once these fears have been overcome, some people will
be ready for a private reading.
For
some, psychic medium demonstrations are simply a form of entertainment,
something to do on a Friday night. Yet these people are the
minority. The majority of attendees have come with a purpose.
Some desperately want to communicate with someone they have
lost. Often, people are seeking proof of an afterlife to know
that their loved-ones live on or that they
will live on when they reach the end of this lifetime. And some
seek insight that will help them to deal with their grief and
allow them to move past the bereavement process and back into
life.
Whatever your reason for attending a demonstration, I highly recommend it. It is one of the most rewarding,
educational and thought-provoking experiences you can have on a
Friday or Saturday night. Even if you leave the demonstration
with remaining skepticism, you will be one step closer to that
understanding I call a “knowing.” First we are
“skeptics.” Then we become “believers.” And in the end,
if we have witnessed enough evidence to overcome a lifetime of
limiting beliefs and learned skepticism, we become
“knowers”—we know that spirit communication is real and
that we survive death.
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BOB
OLSON is a former private investigator and skeptic who began
using his investigation skills to research psychics, psychic
mediums and the afterlife in 1999. This research led him to
establish www.
OfSpirit.com Magazine (2000), www.AfterlifeTV.com
(2011), www.
BestPsychicMediums.com (2001) and www.
BestPsychicDirectory.com (2007), three of the most trusted
and influential sources for understanding and locating
trustworthy psychics and psychic mediums.
Today
Bob Olson has tested hundreds of psychics and psychic mediums
around the world and has become a leading authority on the
subject with TV, movie and documentary producers, journalists,
book publishers, event promoters, as well as law enforcement
agencies and private investigators. Bob’s achievements in
psychic and psychic medium investigation and testing has further
allowed him to evaluate and isolate the key components that set
apart the best psychic medium readings from the
mediocre—leading him to create his famous (although secret)
15-point test.
Bob
has documented his findings in a multitude of articles. He has
authored the Forewords for three books: The Complete Idiot's
Guide To Communicating With Spirits, Consult Your Inner
Psychic and The Complete Idiot's Guide To Divining The
Future. Bob has also been quoted as an expert in How To
Get A Good Reading By A Psychic Medium and Empowering
Your Life With Angels.